Before I even write this I have to give every credit to God for blessing me with amazing and wonderful experiences with pregnancy and childbirth. I learned a few years ago that God actually cares about every fine little detail in our lives and having children is no exception. I also had the revelation early last year that as a believer of God, I can do things differently in this world. There is a better way – a higher way – a way that is glorious and full of God’s goodness – a way that is almost too amazing to fathom – and I want to experience His way of doing things in my life.
When we found out I was pregnant with our baby girl in early March last year, we were pretty darn excited! I was filled with this hopeful expectation and determination of experiencing the fullness of God in her birth. And this is why I’m writing this…not just to share the miracle that God did, but also because, so often we look at the natural circumstances and the facts, instead of staying focused on truth, on God’s promises and believing that He is faithful to His Word. It is so much easier to focus on those things rather than something you can’t see or feel…I know!
Towards the end of my pregnancy, my obstetrician expressed a little concern about my size (apparently I’m a woman stuck in a girl’s body!) and whether or not it would be possible to have her naturally. However, going on the fact that I’d already had our son naturally with no problems, he was happy to see how we went. Although, he did say, if she was more than 6 pound 10 ounces like our son was, it may get tricky! At 39 weeks pregnant, he sent me for an ultrasound to check on the size of her as she was measuring quite a bit under the normal fundal height, which hadn’t changed for a few weeks. The ultrasound was amazing! It was so much fun seeing close ups of her face and tiny little body all grown and developed. The ultrasound revealed everything was fine but that there was not a lot of amniotic fluid which was why the fundal height was so low. This is where everything in my mind changed, because the ultrasound also revealed an approximate weight of 8 pounds already, and a 34cm head circumference! (Who really wants to know that before birth?! haha!) So of course, naturally, I freaked out!
We went away, hopeful that our baby would arrive earlier rather than later because as much as I would do whatever needed to be done to have a healthy baby at delivery, I really didn’t want to have a c-section! For the entire pregnancy I had been asking and believing God for really specific things for the birth of our baby and even though the facts were not really going in our favour, I knew that God was going to do something great in this. The cry of my heart for the entire pregnancy was “God, show me your glory”, and I knew that He would. Three weeks later, I was still pregnant and every day I knew our baby was getting bigger and bigger! This is where I forfeited the joy of those last few weeks of pregnancy and it was kind of like a merry-go-round. I kept looking at the facts and getting upset that I was going to miss out on experiencing this the way I had hoped and prayed because the medical staff where saying our baby was probably too big for me and then I would go to God’s Word and be reminded of His promises and truth and that He is faithful to His Word. Before all this, I had come to the point of expecting nothing less than all that I had asked and prayed for…I knew it would be that way. But when my boat got rocked (so to speak) I was going around in circles every day and wavering terribly! It’s so easy to do but if only we would consistently trust in God and His Word, we would experience His greatness so much more!
We asked a few people to pray as well, and at last I got to the point of trusting again that everything was going to work out and I would have what we had been asking and believing for. We got pretty hopeful when we went for a checkup the week before our girl was born and her head was FINALLY engaged, only to go to my obstetrician a few days later to find out that she’d popped back up and wasn’t anywhere near engaged. That’s when he booked me in for induction the following week, when I would be almost 2 weeks overdue! The morning before I was to be induced I woke up at 3am with contractions. I don’t think I can explain how excited I was because I knew this was it! I got up and started timing them just to make sure they were regular, and it wasn’t long before they were 3 minutes apart, so I went down to the kitchen to clean it up a little, packed up some food and water to take, made a cuppa, got dressed and woke Nic up at 4am. He got up nice and quick and we headed out to the car, only to race back inside to look for my i-pod so we could play some music. After a few minutes we decided it was probably not THAT important and should leave seeing as we had an hours drive ahead of us! My Contractions were less than 2 minutes apart when we left and we were only a few ks up the road when my waters broke, which was actually kind of gross. Nic had put a towel on the seat for me to sit on just in case, but in all reality a towel doesn’t soak up much. Nic went all silent and after I said to him “I’m not really sure what to do?” He reached into the back seat, pulled something out and said, “Here, you can have my jacket.” Now that really didn’t do much either, so as I’m clenching every muscle in my body I can think of to try and hold what was left in so I didn’t flood the car, Nic pulls the car over on the side of the road, (thank you God it was dark!) and I awkwardly wriggle out and let what felt like Niagra Falls flood the side of the road. All while Nic hurriedly rummaged through my bag to pull me out a fresh pair of pants. O gosh, he’s a great husband!
It was kind of full on by now and Nic sped…a lot…all the way to the hospital. It was actually a pretty peaceful drive. Half way there a kangaroo hopped out in front of our car and wonderfully, we just missed it, which was good because I wasn’t wearing a seatbelt! We got to the hospital at around 5am and the midwives had no idea we were coming because we had tried to call a couple of times to let them know, but couldn’t get through to them. After hobbling into the labour ward and giving the midwife on duty my details she checked me and I was almost 10cm dilated then. 2 contractions later I got to start pushing and that’s when this sweet unsuspecting midwife pushed the emergency buzzer for help and began running around hurriedly trying to set everything up. My obstetrician got there soon after and at 6:23am our beautiful daughter was born! She was 8 pounds 2 ounces, 36cm head circumference and 50cm long. God was so good in all of this. After our baby girl’s head came out, her shoulder got stuck on my pelvis. Apparently this happens in less than 1% of births, but my doctor had warned me during one of my appointments with him, that if it did happen, it can potentially be life threatening to our baby. If she wasn’t removed within a few minutes she could die or have serious brain damage. There is also other potential health risks for the baby and also for the mother including severe tearing. So, there is this manouvre the doctor did, which they say is only 42% effective so thankfully it worked for us! Two midwives pinned my legs right back at my ears and the doctor put his hands inside, twisted her shoulder around so it wasn’t hooked on my pelvis, and pulled her out. OUCH!! I remember it being really quick, and really painful, but at the same time there was a real peace and calm. Looking back, I almost feel like it should have be traumatic but it wasn’t and neither is my memory of it. I don’t know if my doctor feels the same. After all this, he came over to me and said that she was too big a baby for me and I’m not aloud to have a baby that big via natural deliver ever again! He looked really shaken up actually and now I know why – they say that shoulder dystocia is one of the most frightening emergencies for doctors in the delivery room. (Yikes!)
I felt great after! I was really kicking myself for doubting God because He really answered our prayers. I went into labour without being induced, my waters broke on their own, I didn’t need to have any stitches, we made it to the hospital just in time, my labour was only three hours, Lettie and I were both healthy, I didn’t need an emergency cesearean, we were all kept in peace, and afterwards, I was almost normal! The doctor said I would probably need painkillers that day because I would be sore but I wasn’t. Infact my legs were the things that were sore all day and that was because they were pinned up around my ears to get Lettie out. (Legs just aren’t meant to stretch that far!) I could even sit down on a plastic chair a couple of hours after having her – something I couldn’t do for a week after having our son! These were all specific things we had prayed for, and do you know what, God is faithful. I even got to stay in the room in maternity I prayed to be in, I gave birth in the labour room I had prayed to be in, and the midwife I had prayed to have, came on duty not long after we got to hospital. My labour even started at the time I had prayed to go into labour all along! I love the analogy of a little baby resting in a mother’s or father’s arms with complete trust and peace. It’s like that with us and God!
The Bible says to present your requests to God (Philippians 4:6) and that if you ask God for something, believing, you will receive it! (Mark 11:22-25, Matthew 18:19-20, John 14:12-14, John 15:7-8, John 16:23-24, 1 John 5:14-15). It also says that NOTHING is impossible with God, so whatever the facts are saying about your situation, God can do something amazingly glorious in that situation – He can do the impossible! (Mark 10:27). He knows the desires and the cry of your heart, if we would just simply trust Him on His Word, no matter what is going on in the natural (easier said than done!), there is always a higher, supernatural way, and that is God’s way. I will finish with this…John 11:40 says this, “Did I not tell you that if you believed, you would see the glory of God?” Well, I don’t want to miss out on seeing the glory of God and experiencing His wonderful ways of doing things that are so amazing and so divine. Expect great and wonderful things to happen in your everyday lives people!! He holds your world in the palm of His hand. The favour of God rests upon you!